Dealing With Haters

This has to be one of those topics most bloggers, or anyone chasing their dreams dislikes talking about. We can't pretend there is no hate, as everyday someone is dealing with some form of it.

"In this life, people will love you and people will hate you, and none of that will have anything to do with you."

It is hard sometimes to realize not everyone will like you, even if you have never met them! Especially if your the type of person who tries their best to get a long with everyone. I feel that in my past, trying to please EVERYONE only teared me apart. You just can't. It's physically impossible to do so.

Some people are going to hate you because they feel in their minds that you did something to them. Some people are going to hate and form a judgement of you by words floating around. Some people are going to hate you because of your success.

I feel dealing with haters online is a whole lot different than dealing with haters in your personal life. Online, everyone can easily hide behind a keyboard and express their anger rapidly. Yet, that person is most likely hurting and will hurt someone else to make them feel better. Dealing with haters in your personal life has to be my biggest struggle. Yes it is easy for some people to easily dust it off their shoulders. But not everyone is the same. For me, its hard. Especially when these types of people are nice to your face but fake behind your back. I feel lately I've been dealing with this. I can't lie and say it doesn't bother me, because it does. I'm human and I've had a rough emotional past that has led me to still suffer from things like this today. I can let it affect me so badly that it can ruin my entire day. All I do is hide from the world.

When people are becoming successful, haters will come out to try to bring you down. It will only make you stronger. I promise. Let those haters be your motivators. Don't do something for them, but do something for yourself. Believe in yourself. It is so easy to allow someone who lives a negative life, try and bring you down. Don't let them. That will allow them to win. I was always that shy girl growing up, allowing others to pick on me and call me cry baby. Because again, I didn't understand why they disliked me and chose to bully me. As an adult, I've learned ways to let it go. Some things take more time, but believing in myself that I'm worth so much more than that continues to allow happiness into my life and drive my success.

I'm fortunate to grow up in a time where the internet wasn't a thing till the mid 90's. There was no such thing as social media until Myspace came out and that for me was in Jr. High. As a blogger, there are people out there who have no idea why you would waste your time doing this. Especially some parts of my family. I don't consider blogging my job, I consider it my life. It gives me a reason to do something and hopefully make an impact to someones life. I have a passion for writing and sharing things with the world. It is just who I am! My creative juices have to be expressed somehow. Do what makes you happy, not what makes others happy.

I'm in my late 20's and still suffer with haters. Haters in all types of form. In my personal life, girls hate on me easily. It reminds me of high school. Actually, I never had this much drama. But as I'm older, younger girls try to tear me down, as do older ladies. It amazes me that girls these days will do anything to ruin someones life, instead of trying to empower one another. We as woman can do so much to change the world, yet we are each others worst enemies. Instead of hating on one another's success, why don't we support one another and become bad ass boss babes? I wish everyone saw life that way. 

I feel I can easily go off and start sharing stories, but that isn't the point of this post. Instead I want to be able to help others going through similar things, whether your a blogger, YouTuber, or just anyone dealing with haters. Those haters will never go away. You have to learn to laugh it off, otherwise you will let it bother you too much. A way that helps me un-bottle all of these emotions is talking to someone. Someone who will listen and tell you to forget about those people. I always feel 100% better when I discuss my feelings with someone close to me. Because they know exactly who I am and how I can sometimes let it bring me down. One big thing that helps with the stress of any internet hate, or just hate in general is working out. When I have way too many things in my brain driving me up the wall, I throw on my workout clothes and sweat it all out. This was my go to when I was overly stressed out at my office job, dealing with unpleasant people. Working out clears my mind.

Don't ever let these people tell you that you can't do something. I believe everyone has a special craft they are good at and should chase their dreams! You only have one life to live, so you might as well live it. Don't allow haters to stop you from being you! 

Until next time,


1 comment

  1. I love this Jessica! It is so sad people feel they need to hurt others with words. I love the saying that jealousy is the ugliest trait... because it really is. I'm not sure why people can't be happy for others. I never (and still don't most of the time) could comprehend why people are jealous over certain things, but it seems to always be the case. I love how honest you are because no matter what it still hurts! All we can do is lift one another up and hope those haters learn by example! Keep your head up beautiful. You do a great job blogging!!